If we wish to express anger fully, the first step is to divorce the other person from any responsibility for our anger.

Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.

Your presence is the most precious gift you can give to another human being.

All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished.

We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.

Instead of playing the game "Making Life Wonderful", we often play the game called "Who's Right". Do you know that game? It's a game where everybody loses.

Empathy is a respectful understanding of what others are experiencing.

People have been trained to criticize, insult, and otherwise communicate in ways that create distance among people.

You don't have to be brilliant. It's enough to become progressively less stupid.

Most of us grew up speaking a language that encourages us to label, compare, demand, and pronounce judgments rather than to be aware of what we are feeling and needing.

The most dangerous of all behaviors may consist of doing things 'because we're supposed to.

One of the most important jobs of the youth is to make the elderly happy.

Commercial fiction writing – where my bread is buttered – is fairly straightforward. The writing is simply efficiency and story. The more you have of one the less you need of the other.

Everything that is going to kill you is extremely appetizing.

We all choke and the man who says he doesn't choke is lying like hell. We all leak oil.

Movie queens diffuse into Cinema haze, while libertines read pornozines in street cafes.

In the end, the truth finds a way to surface even if you don't want it to.

There are laws for peace as well as war.

Go for Dr. Bowen as soon as you can. I think father is hurt.

It's not me that's obsessed with my weight, it's everyone else. I know that I'm healthy, so I don't really feel the need to answer to anyone. I've never substituted a meal for a salad in my life.

When I was a very young lawyer, I had a senior partner who advised me never to get mad, except on purpose.