Wherever you go, there you are. You would just have different problems. Are the problems you have now so bad that any other problems would be better?

All the couples therapy and communication seminars in the world won't save you if you aren't prepared to close your eyes and hug the mainmast through a storm.

So what's the secret to staying together?" I asked her. "Be nice?" she offered. I laughed, but that may be it, the way a secret to losing weight is to eat less. Be nice. Don't leave. That's all.

I want to say that at various points in your marriage, may it last forever, you will look at this person and feel only rage.

...there is so much beauty in the trying, and in the failing, and in the trying again.

The romantic fairy tales we grew up with -- where marriage is the happy ending rather than the opening scene -- are not useful for grown-ups.

(Personally, I have avoided many fights by going to bed angry and waking up to realize that I'd just been tired.)

...even good marriages sometimes involve flinging a remote control at the wall.

People who don't marry miss both the pelting hardships of marriage and its warm rewards.

As married people, we dwell on a spectrum between happy and unhappy, in love and out of love, and we move back and forth on that line decade by decade, year by year, week by week, even hour by hour.

Failure is part of being human, and it is definitely part of being married.

(T)here exist friendships which develop their own inner duration, their own eons of transparent time.

If the great internet connects us all ... then why are so many of us becoming increasingly isolated?

Before you open your mouth to say something, take a step back and imagine what you're going to say was said to you.It makes you think twice, doesn't it?

I believe in the unlimited power of women in the context of science and engineering.

(P)eople’s good intentions can wind up putting us in boxes as confining as coffins.

Are science and religion compatible? It's like, are science and plumbing compatible? They're just two different things.

It's not easy being so frightened of everything. And when I think of how much I've improved in the last year, I wonder when I'll ever get finished with making changes and be really grown up.

A man's life is an appendix to his heart.

Nature is economical. She puts her lights and darks only where she needs them.

Beware of entrance to a quarrel, but, being in, bear t that th' opposed may beware of thee.