H. F. Ellis Quotes

People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.

It was great. I mean, it's a blast directing underwater stuff.

There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.

You mainly feel the way you think.

We buy balloons, we let them go.

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own.

If you would stop, really stop, damning yourself, others, and unkind conditions, you would find it almost impossible to upset yourself emotionally - about anything. Yes, anything.

By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit.

I am learning every day to allow the space between where I am and where I want to be to inspire me and not terrify me.

I have to return some videotapes

Stop shoulding on yourself

Neurosis is just a high-class word for whining.

The attitude of unconditional self-acceptance is probably the most important variable in their long-term recovery.

The trouble with most therapy is that it helps you feel better. But you don't get better. You have to back it up with action, action, action.

All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.

The better you look, the more you see.

Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human.

It is only the great men who are truly obscene. If they had not dared to be obscene, they could never have dared to be great.

Writing a novel is not method acting and I find it easy to step out of it at cocktail hour.

Some people are really good at packaging themselves, but that's not really me.

No one ever likes the right person.

Thinking rationally is often different from "positive thinking," in that it is a realistic assessment of the situation, with a view towards rectifying the problem if possible.

Even injustice has it's good points. It gives me the challenge of being as happy as I can in an unfair world.

The twelve months... Snowy, Flowy, Blowy, Showery, Flowery, Bowery, Hoppy, Croppy, Droppy, Breeze, Sneezy, Freezy.

The great majority of the things we now make ourselves panicked about are self-created 'dangers' that exist almost entirely in our own imaginations.

Religious creeds encourage some of the craziest kinds of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors and favor severe manifestations of neurosis, borderline personality states, and sometimes even psychosis.

Yeah, I'm not really a morning person.

You're miserable, edgy and tired. You're in the perfect mood for journalism.

To err is human; to forgive people and yourself for poor behavior is to be sensible and realistic.

To be a true artist you have to play the way you feel not the way others think you should feel.

I want to be awake. I want to choose kindness, live & let live. I want joy, gratitude, and peace today.

We can all be heroes in our virtues, in our homes, in our lives.

[quoting someone else] the American constitution is a document designed by geniuses to be eventually interpreted by idiots

Men were made for war. Without it they wandered greyly about, getting under the feet of the women, who were trying to organize the really important things of life.

Books are a staircase to unknown worlds.

Every spring is the only spring, a perpetual astonishment.

An unwatched pot boils immediately.

Is evil something you are? Or is it something you do?

It was when I realized I needed to stop trying to be somebody else and be myself, that I actually started to own, accept and love what I had.

Just embrace your hair! I really feel like I am not an advocate for people doing what I do. I'm an advocate for people discovering and finding what works for them.

Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional.

When I'm not working, I spend a lot of time on my hair. When it's time for my hair to get some rest, I either wear it in a ponytail, bun or my favorite "milkmaid" braid.

Even when people act nastily to you, don't condemn them or retaliate.

Being assertive does not mean attacking or ignoring others feelings. It means that you are willing to hold up for yourself fairly-without attacking others.

You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.

Jealousy, that dragon which slays love under the pretence of keeping it alive.

Better an ugly face than an ugly mind.

Failure doesn't have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person.

When people change their irrational beliefs to undogmatic flexible preferences, they become less disturbed.

Dancing is the loftiest, the most moving, the most beautiful of the arts, because it is no mere translation or abstraction from life; it is life itself.