The ability to go anywhere in our imagination is a pure expression of individual freedom. It is a creative force that can help us transcend reality.

If you start to feel that you have given up too many parts of yourself to be with your partner, then one day you will end up looking for another person in order to reconnect with those lost parts.

Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery.

Trouble looms when monogamy is no longer a free expression of loyalty but a form of enforced compliance.

Mystery is not always about travelling to new places, it is about looking with new eyes.

It’s hard to feel attracted to someone who has abandoned her sense of autonomy.

Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage is not the end of romance, it is the beginning.

There is no neediness in desire ... there is no caretaking in desire. Caretaking is mightily loving, [but] it's a powerful anti-aphrodisiac.

When we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner we're turning away from, but the person we have ourselves become.

Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness.

It's our imagination that's responsible for love, not the other person.

A book was mere paper splattered with ink until a reader’s mind gave it life.

The city had seemed grand to him once ... it had once had a certain clarity. When you're young you think it's the clarity that's intoxicating

But I can't force everything into the arrangement I'd like. I can't use denial to make everything simple.

...it has always been my temperament to prefer a tiny amount of the excellent to a plenitude of the mediocre...

History is biology's dumping ground

I need, therefore I imagine.

It's a good thing to feel like you have to prove something

Why don't you go and live in a hostel to save cash?

I did not have to dream I made it a reality.

To me, my grandfather’s urgency to preach the Gospel one more time to a lost and dying world is the definition of 'finishing well,' and it’s such a blessing and lesson.