For many years, I searched for this connection outside of myself but always to no avail. It was only when I turned inward did I find this power.

Making amends is not only saying the words but also being willing to listen to how your behavior caused another’s pain, and then the really hard part…changing behavior.

The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.

The greater the pain associated with love, the more likely a person is to be attracted to others who will inflict this pain…for isn’t this what love is? Hurt people tend to hurt other people.

It is one thing to know about your dysfunctional habits but quite another to change them.

If you are looking for love under rocks or bringing home water moccasins, you might be confusing love and pain.

Sitting on the hot seat of change requires much courage, patience, and persistence.

If we want to improve, first we have to recognize our own maladaptive coping skills, called codependency, then change.

Change will not successfully happen unless the emotional component is solved.

Putting labels on others creates a black hole of disregard where judgment thrives and schisms deepen.

Change is hard, difficult, painful, and often messy

Sometimes the heart can hear what the ears do not.

Some goes to church to seek prosperity

I have said: "Blow out the lamp! Day is here!" And you keep saying: "Give me a lamp so I can find the day.

People quit people before they quit companies.

Living by the beach means feeling guilty about never going to the beach.

We can choose our family. We can't choose our relatives.

People do not want words - they want the sound of battle - the battle of destiny.

I write, fighting for every sentence, fighting to hold the reader with every paragraph.

A man sets himself the task of portraying the world. Shortly before he dies he discovers that this patient labyrinth of lines is a drawing of his own face.

Attention shifted to him like sunflowers turning to the sun.