Gretchen Rubin Quotes
Sometimes I think it's easier to think about being happier, for what ever that means to you then worrying about what is happiness and what would life be if I finally achieved this ultimate happiness?
People feel happier when they feel like they're progressing. When they feel like something in their life is growing or getting better.
Happiness is hard because it's very subjective. I know the people that seem happiest to me, but whether they are actually - what they're really like inside is really hard to say.
Having a messy coat closet should not be a big deal in a full life, and yet there's something about getting control of that coat closet that's surprisingly satisfying.
I have a passion for children's literature. Young adult literature. I love it. I've always loved it.
Getting control of stuff makes people feel like they have more control over their lives - maybe irrationally, but it's one of these psychological truths.
I'm a creature of routine, and I hate feeling incompetent, so I avoided novelty and challenge. Making an effort to push myself in that way has brought me surprising boost.
The number one resolution that people mention to me as something that's made them happier is - to my surprise - making the bed.
If you always use your stapler in one place, keep it there, instead of thinking that all the office supplies should go in one place. I've moved a lot of things around in my house because of that.
Nothing, ' wrote Tolstoy, 'can make our life, or the lives of other people, more beautiful than perpetual kindness.
I often learn more from one person's highly idiosyncratic experiences than I do from sources that detail universal practices or cite up-to-date studies.
I'd always vaguely expected to outgrown my limitations.
Although we presume that we act because of the way we feel, in fact we often feel because of the way we act.
Experts say that denying bad feelings intensifies them, acknowledging bad feelings allows good feelings to return.
By mindfully deciding how to act in line with my values instead of mindlessly applying my rules, I was better able to make the decisions that supported my happiness.
This is one of the many paradoxes of happiness: we seek to control our lives, but the unfamiliar and the unexpected are important sources of happiness.
Sometimes I succeed, sometimes I fail, but everyday is a clean state and a fresh opportunity.
I should pursue only those habits that would make me feel freer and stronger.
When possible, the brain makes a behavior into a habit, which saves effort and therefore gives us more capacity to deal with complex, novel, or urgent matters.
Audiences = expectations. If he thinks you're not watching, he won't need to rebel against your expectations.
They say that people teach what they need to learn. By adopting the role of happiness teacher, if only for myself, I was trying to find the method to conquer my particular faults and limitations.
Skillful conversationalists can explore disagreements and make points in ways that feel constructive and positive rather than combative or corrective.
People are powerfully moved by imagination, belief, and knowledge. They can consider the past and future. They can make changes in their behavior out of reason in a way that animals can't do.
