the great lack of parity between husbands and wives has always been spawned by the disproportionate degree of self-sacrifice that women are willing to make on behalf of those they love.

You can measure the happiness of a marriage by the number of scars that each partner carries on their tongues, earned from years of biting back angry words.

To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow - this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.

Maybe the difference between first marriage and second marriage is that the second time at least you know you are gambling.

Sometimes life is too hard to be alone, and sometimes life is too good to be alone.

Marriage becomes hard work once you have poured the entirety of your life’s expectations for happiness into the hands of one mere person. Keeping that going is hard work.

The problem, simply put, is that we cannot choose everything simultaneously. So we live in danger of becoming paralyzed by indecision, terrified that every choice might be the wrong choice.

Every intimacy carries secreted somewhere below its initial lovely surfaces, the ever-coiled makings of complete catastrophe.

I was a veritable Johnny Appleseed of grand expectations, and all I reaped for my trouble was a harvest of bitter fruit.

By unnerving definition, anything that the heart has chosen for its own mysterious reasons it can always unchoose later—again, for its own mysterious reasons.

For if there is one thing I have learned over the years about men, it is that feelings of powerlessness do not usually bring forth their finest qualities.

A thousand times I was ready to regret and take back my rash statement - yet it had been the truth.

Pada awalnya semua, semua bangga pada pilihannya. Tapi pada akhirnya, tidak semua orang setia pada pilihannya. Karena yang tersulit dalam hidup, bukan memilih tapi bertahan pada pilihan.

Serve no one with your gift, but all.

Asking in faith requires honesty, effort, commitment, and persistence.

Solitude is the place where we can connect with profound bonds that are deeper than the emergency bonds of fear and anger.

We should favor innovation and freedom over regulation.

Nothing under the sun is accidental, least of all that of which the intention is so clearly evident.

I had an awful lot of my soul invested in Atari culture.

I wish I could have skipped college.

I was a make believe ethnographer: treating New Yorkers like an explorer would treat Zulus - searching for the rawest snapshot, the zero degree of photography.