Real love moves freely in both directions. Don't waste your time on anything else.

You will learn a lot about yourself if you stretch in the direction of goodness, of bigness, of kindness, of forgiveness, of emotional bravery. Be a warrior for love.

What if I was never redeemed? What if I already was?

Don't surrender all your joy for an idea you used to have about yourself that isn't true anymore.

Whatever happens to you belongs to you. Make it yours. Feed it to yourself even if it feels impossible to swallow. Let it nurture you, because it will.

The story of human intimacy is one of constantly allowing ourselves to see those we love most deeply in a new, more fractured light. Look hard. Risk that.

You have to say I am forgiven again and again until it becomes the story you believe about yourself.

That my complicated life could be made so simple was astounding.

Be about ten times more magnanimous than you believe yourself capable of. Your life will be a hundred times better for it.

Love is our essential nutrient. Without it, life has little meaning. It's the best thing we have to give and the most valuable thing we receive. It's worthy of all the hullabaloo.

Self-pity is a dead-end road. You make the choice to drive down it. It's up to you to decide to stay parked there or to turn around and drive out.

some people fall in love over and over again while some people can only do it once.

If you stop feeding strife, it will eventually lead to a peaceful life.

... A man's wife can hold him devilish uneasy, if she begins to scold and fret, and perplex him, at a time when he has a full load for a railroad car on his mind already.

You can't rest on yesterday's growth. You must be dedicated to growing today... and every day.

If justice is supposed to be fair, than any justice system you would hope is based on fairness.

I'd like to retire at 50 but I don't want to sell papers in the middle of London on a Zimmer.

It's naive to think there is a woman in the world who isn't brought up to believe that they are waiting for their soul mate. You even see it in Disney.

The Imperial Service could win a war without coffee, but would prefer not to have to.

So this is always the key: you have to write the book you love, the book that's alive in your heart. That's the one you have to write.