Sherry Turkle, Alone Together: Why We Expect More From Technology And Less From Each Other Quotes
Children content with parents who are physically close, tantalizingly so, but mentally elsewhere.
Texting is more direct. You don't have to use conversation filler.
There is a rich literature on how to break out of quandary thinking. It suggests that sometimes it helps to turn from the abstract to the concrete.
Fantasies and wishes carry their own significant messages.
This is a new nonnegotiable: to feel safe, you have to be connected.
Increasingly, people feel as though they must have a reason for taking time alone, a reason not to be available.
Technophillia is our natural state: we love our object and follow where they lead.
Laboratory research suggests that how we look and act in the virtual affect our behavior in the real.
The way we contemplate technology on the horizon says much about who we are and who we are willing to become.
For him, mastery of the game world is a source of joy.
Connectivity becomes a craving.
Children contend with parents who are physically close, tantalizingly so, but mentally elsewhere.
Online life is practice to make the rest of life better, but it is also a pleasure in itself.
Children make theories when they are confused or anxious.
When young people are insecure, they find ways to manufacture love tests – personal metrics to reassure themselves.
He experiences a connection where knowledge does not interfere with wonder.
We may end up with a life deferred by the business of its own collection.
Swaddle in our favorites, we missed out on what was in our peripheral vision.
Online life is about premeditation.
The idea of the original had no place.
He makes an effort to be more spontaneous on Facebook.
Shakespeare might have said, we are "consumed with that with which we are nourished by.
We have to love technology enough to describe it accurately. And we have to love ourselves enough to confront technology's true effect on us.
The journal is written to everyone and thus to no one.
Sometimes a citizenry should not simply "be good". You have to leave space for dissent, real dissent.
We see a first generation going through adolescence knowing their every misstep, all the awkward gestures of their youth, are being frozen in a computer's memory.
One of the privileges of childhood is that some of the world is mediated by adults.
Underestimation has its uses.
Relationships we complain about nevertheless keep us connected to life.
When people turn other people into selfobjects, they are trying to turn a person into a kind of spare part.
A sacred space is not a place to hide out. It is a place where we recognize ourselves and our commitments.
To understand desire, one needs language and flesh.
Challenge quandary thinking, either/or thinking come by moving from the abstract to the concrete. What can we do with the choice actually in front of us?
Discovering an inner history requires listening – and often not to the first story told.
Eric Erikson writes that in their search for identity, adolescents need a place of stillness, a place to gather themselves.
It's too late to leave the future to the futurists.
Overstimulated, we seek out constrained worlds.
Addiction is to the habits of mind that technology allows us to practice.
As adults, we can develop and change our opinions. In childhood, we establish the truth of our hearts.
She had set it on the Internet, its own peculiar echo chamber.
The idea that we can be exactly what the other desires is a powerful fantasy.
This is what technology wants, it wants to be a symptom. Like all psychological symptoms, it obscures a problem by "solving" it without addressing it.
I miss those days even though I wasn't alive.
Technology proposes itself as the architect of our intimacies.
We expect more from technology and less from each other.
One of the emotional affordances of digital communication is that one can always hide behind deliberated nonchalance.
A woman in her late sixties described her new iPhone: "it's like having a little time square in my pocketbook. All lights. All the people I could meet.
Face-to-face with a computer, people reflected on who they were in the mirror of the machine.
Under stress, they seek composure above all. But they do not find equanimity.
He prefers a deliberate performance that can be made to seem spontaneous.
