Shannon L. Alder Quotes

Never leave a situation unless you know what you needed and what you were never going to get.

Words matter, but what matters more than words is forgiveness and compassion.

Never give a person a piece of your mind when all you really wanted to do was give them a piece of your heart.

God always brings someone into your life that has traveled the same path and knows the rocks you climbed to get to the end of the trail.

You will never accept gratitude as a solution to your problems, until you have reached the last stage of grief--acceptance.

Sometimes what a person expresses in their eyes is more than all the books you could read on suffering.

Remember, the village idiot was the spiritual man who built the ark and saved his family. Keep being you and never give up marching to the beat of your own drum!

When you spend time worrying, you’re simply using your imagination to create things you don’t want.

A best friend is someone that will stand in your storm and tell you the lightening is beautiful just to make you realize that your heart was worth getting soaked.

The day I found my smile again was when I stood in my own storm and danced with my tribe.

Two people that have the same wants are two people that should be friends.

When you lose your ego, you win. It really is that simple.

You can be bit in the leg by a rattlesnake and seek help to heal your wound, or you can run after it and let the poison take your leg. The same is true with love.

Empathy and a huge imagination explain a lot of mysteries in the universe.

There are so many battles worth fighting for. The ones not worth fighting are the insecure battles that rage in another person’s mind.

When we want to see someone in a certain way, we find a way, but when we don't we have to wake up and see who they truly are and not what our pain or anger chooses to believe.

The only man worth having in your life is one that would never let you walk away.

You will know if you are on the right path when God directs your choices, not your spouse or significant other.

A fantasy is nothing more than a dream you were too scared to chase.

You don't walk away to prove your worth. You walk away because you allowed someone else to dictate your value and you found yourself believing it.

A man worth loving is a man that never makes you feel like an option.

Chasing a man is not winning. The only thing you win is the loss of your dignity. Confidence is knowing your value, instead of expecting a man’s love to provide you with value.

If you want to be an honorable man, then be what you pretend to be.

Never mix business with religion, or you might end up losing your testimony when the business agreement is no longer something you or Christ would put up with.

When your heart knows the truth, it never forgets.

Cruel people offer pity when they no longer feel threatened. However, kind people offer compassion and understanding regardless.

One of the most important things you can do on this earth is to let people know they are not alone.

Being kind to someone, only to look kind to others, defeats the purpose of being kind.

The greatest lesson you might ever learn in this life is this: It is not about you.

When you can identify the insecurities inside the person that is hurting you then you can begin to heal. It isn't about you. It is about their past.

The day you find out who you are is when you look back and realize that it was never the words, rather your actions that defined you.

Storms don't come to teach us painful lessons, rather they were meant to wash us clean.

Pour God's love out of you in pitcher fulls, not thimbles.

Never give up and never give in. The truth always finds a way to be told.

Your tears for others will float you closer toward God.

A best friend is the one person that doesn't leave you worse off by their actions or yours.

Arrange your life in such a way that you don't make choices based on fear of God, instead of love of God.

Make choices in life that don't leave people bitter, worse off or confused. Any choice that leads you to do this is a choice that didn't include God in the decision making process.

Never let the principle of what you believe in become more important than the person.

What people can get you or do for you will never replace a person that will influence you to be a better person.

Kindness is as simple as being grateful for the love anyone has shown you, by not destroying them because it isn't on your terms.

The healthy should be reminded that we are all dying because it is through our own reminder of mortality that we accelerate our good intentions, into actions people can see.

Before you call yourself a Christian, Buddhist, Muslim, Hindu or any other theology, learn to be human first.

Nowhere in the bible did it say, “Only show compassion and empathy to those you can trust.” If we did that, we would be burying homeless people every day.

If you’re treating people poorly then you're not emulating God’s love. God always resides with the broken hearted.

It is not the number of prayers that will give you happiness, but the number you answer for another person.

It is not what you leave to your children that matters, but what you leave in them.

All we have is "One Life", so go for IT!

Kindness is love in action, not feeling emotions or thoughts of empathy only. Kindness is doing!

You will never let go of the one thing that God keeps prompting you to fix.