Shannon L. Alder Quotes

Allowing a person or thing to leave your life, without further pain is the basis of humanity. Everything else is the reason (theology).

A man of worth is a man that sees the worth in others more than himself.

Sometimes you only get one chance to rewrite the qualities of the character you played in a person's life story. Always take it. Never let the world read the wrong version of you.

The destination is not the journey. The destination is the person you choose to enjoy the journey with.

A quote is not a conversation, but an invitation to change your perspective.

You can't be tempted, unless you want what is tempting you.

It is better to be alone than to become a person that loses his soul to the fear of loneliness.

Sometimes you have to look past a person’s mistakes to see God’s presence.

This much is true: When you are about to effect the lives of hundreds of people, Satan will do everything he can to prevent it from happening. Often pride and anger are his best assassins.

The art of being wise is the art of knowing that solutions don’t come from individuals, but rather experiences.

In every experience we get to choose either love or fear as a response. Your character is formed by the percentages of those choices, which then forms your life.

It is better to be alone then to be in a relationship, while you are trying to figure out what love means to you.

A daughter of God knows that insecurity is not an excuse for doing evil to others, nor will God rest until caring for everyone is a lesson you learn.

Despite our disapproval with what God allows us to endure, he still remains the same God that is not interested in our convenience, as much as our character.

Life is as simple as these three questions: What do I want? Why do I want it? And, how will I achieve it?

It is not your talents that make you great, but your decisions.

Winning and losing is not an external game. It is an internal battle over telling yourself the truth vs. lies regarding why you haven’t stepped into the life you dreamed of.

When what you value and dream about doesn’t match the life you are living, you have pain.

A goal will always tell you where you don't want to be.

When you have a plan in your mind of what the best life is for you, but it doesn't match your life, you have pain.

The goal of a life purpose is not what you will create, but what it will make you into for creating it.

You can't be creative without criticism. If your life is without critics then maybe you are painting your life's masterpiece with only a broken brown crayon.

Some people need significance more than they need another person. Change will only happen in a relationship when you realize it is not the person, but the "emotion" you desire.

Right person, wrong timing doesn’t mean God was wrong. It means you were there at the right time to fulfill something else. Look for it.

The only real conflict you will ever have in your life won’t be with others, but with yourself.

A person that doesn't know their worth will never know yours. Therefore, the longer you hang onto hope that they will finally see your worth is the moment you start to depreciate in value.

Never chase a person that doesn't know your worth because the moment you catch him you will always feel you were never good enough.

If you live life on your own terms it shouldn’t feel like a jail cell.

When you only know your faults and failures, you allow yourself and others to downgrade your dreams and belittle your wants.

If you're stressing over happiness, you're doing it wrong!

Conformity begins the moment you ignore how you feel for acceptance.

Worry is like a roller coaster ride that you think will take you somewhere, but it never does.

A life out of balance is a person that doesn’t believe happiness can be achieved now, or in the future. It is as fleeting as the wind.

That is who I was yesterday. Today I walk with God.

Be honest with who you are, what you want and how you want to be treated. Boundaries only scare off the people that were not meant to be in your life.

Don't beg for approval or expect respect. Respect comes from within and your choice to allow people to take it from you, by how you teach them to treat you.

If you have to convince someone that you are their soulmate then you didn't realize the thousand other guys applying for the job.

Empowered Women 101: Confident women know the difference between being a meal ticket and being the meal.

True self confidence happens when you stop blaming others for not seeing what you love about yourself. Not everyone has the same list of needs.

Never speak unless you can improve upon the stupidness of people's silence.

Some women are built by the fire. Yet, there are some that are the FIRE!

How you react doesn’t tell a person about your character, as much as it does your fear or God's fire. Which is it?

Pressure has the power to create a diamond, but it has to be the "right" pressure.

Never be ashamed of who you are. True shame always belongs to the person that enjoys being ashamed of who you are.

Heroes are not made. They are born out of circumstances and rise to the occasion when their spirit can no longer coexist with the hypocrisy of injustice to others.

You know you have found your life mission when you say, “I dare you to try and take this away from me.

When you have the courage to follow your talents into the dark unknown places they lead, often God will send angels to light your way.

The problem with this generation is they are so quick to define who they are in the process of searching. It is their need for immediate acceptance that keeps them from exploring further.

A relationship run by rules, instead of love is a relationship that is on the road to failure.

Madness is loving the unsolvable puzzle of your soul and replacing the lost pieces with my own.