Jo Coudert Quotes

In order to plan your future wisely, it is necessary that you understand and appreciate your past.

You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self.

You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. Of all the people you will know in the lifetime, you are the only one you will never leave or lose.

Every life is a dilemma that must be solved by the person living it.

There is no way of steering successfully between a failed situation and a failed self except by stopping and taking our bearings.

If life is envisioned as a continuously running motion picture, the keeping of a notebook stops the action and allows a meaningful scene to be explored frame by frame.

The divorced person is like a man with a black patch over one eye: he looks rather dashing but the fact is that he has been through a maiming experience.

Men fear being used; women fear being used up.

Most people ask of their friends that they understand them, but, on balance, I think I prefer a friend who understands himself.

While it is necessary to eat and therefore it is pleasantest to eat food that looks handsome and tastes good, on the other hand there are things I would far rather do than spend time in a kitchen.

Affection may be abiding and love may be abiding, but the state of being in love is transitory.

It is possible to ruin a chicken in the cooking of it, but not easily. Short of burning it or letting it get dried out, you can hardly go wrong.

People who are good to each other make each other good.

Operating in an unlit world, the unconscious mind is a brilliant detective.

Hardening of the hearteries is the most serious affliction besetting marriage, and warm, good-humored, approving words are the only effective preventive.

cookbooks, I found, are intended for people with time to cook - and, surprisingly often, for people who already know how to cook.

The more deeply the path is etched, the more it is used, and the more it is used, the more deeply it etched.

Self-affirmation cannot be found in love; it is a prior condition of genuine love.

At what age should one marry? As a rule of thumb, perhaps not until you are past the age of feeling strongly that you must marry.

We can win the struggle to avoid responsibility for our personal lives, but if we do, what we lose is our lives.

To live with the terrible truths about ourselves is the only way of not living them out. A need denied has infinitely more power than a need accepted.

It is one of those quirks of human nature that you love the person whom you treat well, not necessarily the person who treats you well.

We find what we expect to find. We do not see the world as it is but as we are.