Helen Fisher Quotes

A Rolex watch or an expensive car are the things guys often use to show status, wealth, and basic desirability.

Keep an open heart. We are wired to find love.

Romantic love is an obsession. It possesses you. You lose your sense of self. You can’t stop thinking about another human being.

Any kind of novelty or excitement drives up dopamine in the brain, and dopamine is associated with romantic love.

The main characteristics of romantic love are craving: an intense craving to be with a particular person, not just sexually, but emotionally.

A world without love is a deadly place.

Sometimes we fall in love with somebody who will probably never love us, for reasons having nothing to do with us but with their own mindset, their chemistry.

We're not very dangerous animals; we don't have a horn like a rhino or quills like a porcupine.

Barriers tend to intensify romance. It's called the 'Romeo and Juliet effect.' I call it 'frustration attraction.'

I think romantic love evolved to enable you to focus your mating energy on just one individual at a time, thereby conserving mating time and energy.

Experiences shape the brain, but the brain shapes the way we view experiences, too.

Men and women are like two feet; they can help each other get ahead.

Women have never been as interesting as they are now. Not at any time on this planet have women been so educated, so interesting, so capable.

Nobody gets out of love alive. You turn into a menace or a pest when you've been rejected.

As a group, anthropologists are not too fond of people who work in the business world.

Saliva has testosterone and estrogen. When you kiss, you're having a chemical experience.

Romantic love is not an emotion. ... It's a drive. It comes from the motor of the mind, the wanting part of the mind, the craving part of the mind.

Romantic love is an addiction: a perfectly wonderful addiction when it's going well, and a perfectly horrible addiction when it's going poorly.

The reason you take antidepressants is to feel calm. And romantic love is not calm -it's elation, it's mood swings, and you're killing all that when you take the drug.

Research shows that couples who have a lot of similarities, including intellectual compatibility, end up staying together.

Young women today do not marry the men they met in high school, or even the one they go out with at college, because they do not need to.

Psychologists maintain that the dizzy feeling of intense romantic love lasts only about 18 months to-at best-three years

We're apt to fall in love with those who are mysterious and challenging to us.

When you massage someone, the levels of oxytocin go up in the brain, and oxytocin is one of the chemicals that drives attachment.

Romantic love allows you to focus mating energy. Attachment sustains that relationship as long as necessary to raise your baby.

I've always maintained that men were more romantic than women.

Anthropologists have found evidence of romantic love in 170 societies. They've never found a society that did not have it.

There's biology in everything, even when you're feeling spiritual.

Despite the myth that men are less committed, they are predisposed to desire marriage.

Throughout evolution, ostracism was death indeed.

Whether you're married or not, relationships - and the satisfaction tied to them - are extremely important for increasing men's and women's quality of life.

You've got to remember that men are men and women are women. And although a lot of similarities, there are some real differences.

A woman of 40 or 50 or 60 can take estrogen replacements, get facelifts, spend her money in bars.

love is like Someone is camping in your head

Kissing is not just kissing. It is a major escalation or de-escalation point in a powerful process of mate choice.

Globalization requires taking a broad contextual and long-term view.

High heels can literally raise your status because you're taller when you wear them.

There exists no culture in which adultery is unknown, no cultural device or code that extinguishes philandering.

Most of us make up our minds in the first three minutes of meeting someone whether there's a potential for a relationship.

As women in industrial societies join the paid workforce, they gain the economic means to depart unhappy marriages more easily.

If two very different people pool their DNA, they'll create more genetic variety, and their young will come to the job of parenting with a wider array of skills.

Until recently, we regarded love as supernatural. We were willing to study the brain chemistry of fear and depression and anger but not love.

Men have a psychological need to show off their courage and strength. When he sees you talking to another guy, that instinct kicks in and he jumps to protect you and prove he's worthy of your love.

Natural beauty really entices men. They will tell you this time and time again, and studies consistently prove it.

Romantic love is an addiction.

When you're in the throes of this romantic love, it's overwhelming - you're out of control, you're irrational, you're going to the gym at 6 A.M. every day - Why? Because she's there.

Women's worst invention was the plow. With the beginning of plow agriculture, men's roles became extremely powerful. Women lost their ancient jobs as collectors.

Women spend their lives trying to look good for men. So a woman who feels she's sending the right visual signals is pleased with herself.

When you look at the brain regions associated with picking up data from the body, a huge amount of the brain is devoted to picking up information from the lips and tongue.

We spend our lives trying to get along with people so we can keep our jobs, keep our marriages together, so that we can raise our kids properly.