Gary Chapman Quotes
People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need.
Love doesn't erase the past, but it makes the future different.
Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself.
Remember that your ultimate goal is for your children to grow up secure in your love, strong in their faith, and with sound character.
Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment. It is a choice to show mercy, not to hold the offense up against the offender. Forgiveness is an expression of love.
Don't be a victim of the urgent. In the long run, much of what seems so pressing right now won't even matter. What you do with your children will matter forever.
If we are to develop an intimate relationship, we need to know each other's desires. If we wish to love each other, we need to know what the other person wants.
Lack of love from parents often motivates their children to go searching for love in other relationships. This search is often misguided and leads to further disappointment.
Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage.
I am amazed by how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday. They insist on bringing into today the failures of yesterday and in so doing, they pollute a potentially wonderful day.
Conflicts are not a sign you've married the wrong person. They simply affirm you are human.
The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love.
Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love.
Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is considered the cruelest of punishments.
We fail to reckon with the reality of human nature. By nature,we are egocentric. Our world revolves around us. None of us is totally altruistic.
We are trained to analyze problems and create solutions. We forget that marriage is a relationship, not a project to be completed or a problem to solve.
What we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage.
I have been doing marriage counseling for about 15 years and I realized that what makes one person feel loved, doesn't make another person feel loved.
Nobody has the power to make you miserable . . . unless you choose to give them that power. Choose to enjoy every drop of today!
Another reality about relationships is that they are never static. All of us experience changes in relationships but a few stop to analyse why a relationship gets better or worse.
I cannot change others, but I can influence others... we can't change people, but we can and we do influence people, and we do it every single day.
Recent research has indicated that the average individual listens for only seventeen seconds before interrupting and interjecting his own ideas.
By nature, most people are controlled by their emotions. They feel sad, so they look sad.
Every single day in a marriage, we influence each other. It is a matter of am I going to have a positive influence or a negative influence?
You cannot force someone to accept an expression of love. You can only offer it. If it is not accepted, you must respect the other person's decision.
I think that in today's world, by nature, we are all self-centered. And that often leads to selfishness.
Much of the misbehavior of children is motivated by the cravings of an empty LOVE TANK.
The one who chooses to love will find appropriate ways to express that decision everyday.
