Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts Quotes

Some people believe that if they yell and scream, others will get the point of just how serious they are. For me, all I get is the point of just how out of control that someone is.

Life belongs to optimists. Pessimists are just viewers. Making it real, starts with our attitude.

No one needs to be around someone who dulls the shine on a brand new penny.

We are imperfect humans and are bound to need attitude adjustments from time to time.

We will remember the hurt, the injustice, and the trauma, but we can forgive the sinner.

Apologies require taking full responsibility. No half-truths, no partial admissions, no rationalizations, no finger pointing, and no justifications belong in any apology.

Societies that have condoned male cheating and condemned female cheating are simply male-dominated cultures. Cheating is cheating, no matter who is doing it. It’s wrong.

Trust means that they will never throw our pain and vulnerabilities in our face. Trust means we know they will protect us and our innermost thoughts and shared feelings without question.

It matters not which partner is bringing negativity into conversations and exchanges. Toxicity has no place at all between people who have promised to love each other.

Unconditional love takes a strong and deliberate evolution. Unconditional love is way beyond emotional involvement. This is loving the person inside the person… loving their very soul.

I can only imagine that future generations will consider us to have been barbaric for our intolerance of differences.

Irritatingly angry people have no sense of humor when wearing their “angry pants.

Actively repeating a lie or denial does not make it true.

Without trust, our relationships lack an essential ingredient for emotional intimacy. We need to be able to totally trust our partner with our deepest thoughts, dreams, fears, and secrets.

I think we need to develop a powerful dose of tolerance to understand each other’s humanness. None of us is perfect.

It takes a strong woman to tolerate a weak man. That said, it takes a strong man to tolerate a weak woman, too.

Appreciation and respect are mutual needs. We may be wired differently as men and women, but some needs are parallel human needs.

Some people think that it’s okay to be downright nasty to people they love. It is not okay. Nasty is never called for, and it’s certainly not sweet, useful, nor positive.

When we make the decisions to be and stay in love, we should also make a decision and commitment to be supportive.

Direct lies, small lies, huge lies, and lies of omission… these are all self-serving and sources of self-destruction.

There is tremendous trauma in the betrayal caused by a perpetual liar as they repeatedly commit psychological abuse.

Screaming and repeating lies makes them neither true nor more believable.

Cheating is pure hypocrisy. Our partner deserves better than that. If we don’t love someone, we should not be with them. That would also be hypocrisy.

Extra-marital affairs become things of legend… and often the undoing of legends… and mere mortals.