Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

One way to eliminate self negating thoughts and behavior is by gaining more understanding through realizing that you cannot force others to see that what you feel is real.

When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed.

Choice is a divine teacher, for when we choose we learn that nothing is ever put in our path without a reason.

Love is not all that is required in a relationship. It needs understanding, openness, kidness, patience, long-suffering

You are the light of the world. You are an instrument of the Divine. You are the greatest miracle in the world. Life is graced by your presence.

If you want a real experience of serenity, look for the good. Affirm the good. Acknowledge the good.

Until you are willing to accept total and complete responsibility for every aspect of your life, your life will keep sending you experiences designed to get your attention.

It is important to acknowledge all your feelings and not beat yourself up for having them. Your feelings are not good or bad, they just are.

When you continue to give without receiving, the only thing you are proving is that you know how to be taken advantage of.

Black Girls rock because we have no other choice.

People may not like what you do, people may not like how you do it, but these people are not living your life. You are!

The way to achieve your own success is to be willing to help somebody else get it first.

If it's not your story to tell, you don't tell it.

People are hurting. People are suffering. But you can not get everywhere.

Spirituality is not about what you know. It is about growing, deepening, evolving and becoming a living reflection of your spiritual identity.

When there is breakdown in a relationship, you must have the hard conversation. It may not be pretty and it may not feel good. But if you are willing to listen and tell the truth, it will open up.

Forgive yourself for believing that youre anything less than beautiful.

It's time for you to move, realizing that the thing you are seeking is also seeking you.

I am the one I have been looking for.

Education does not take place when you learn something you did not know before. Education is your ability to use what you have learned to be better today than you were yesterday.

When we have peace in our hearts and minds, we draw peace into our lives.

Thinking is the problem. Thinking is hazardous to your progress in life. Don't think - feel.

Begin within. If it shows up in your life, it's coming to tell you something about you that you're acting like you don't know. Something about yourself, or your relationship with God.

One of the ways that people avoid taking responsibility for their role in their own pain is what I call the BPs - blame and projection.

Accept all invitations to do a new thing. Dare not limit yourself. Move toward your wildest #‎ dream , take the labels off your mind, and step boldly into your greatness.

You can never love anyone to your own detriment. That is not love, that is possession, control, fear, or a combination of them all.

Your divine mate already exists. When you get to the place in yourself that is peaceful divine love, your true mate will be revealed.

We must each learn to feel comfortable in our own uniqueness by rising above the fear of being wrong and the aversion to being different.

If you heart had a voice, Beloved, what would it say?

Always remember who you are. Know that you are never required to apologize to anyone for being yourself.

Give yourself permission to smile a lot today. In fact, why not make it a habit!

Instead of running from what you don't want, walk with commitment toward what you desire. Focus on where you are going rather than being obsessed with where you have been.

When your life is working there will be an absence of drama

If you don't ask for what you need, the need will keep getting bigger.

When you're the strong one, people don't give you permission to hurt.

When you give to others to the degree that you sacrifice yourself, you make the other person a thief.

Breathing deeply and releasing fear will help you get to where you want to be.

What keeps us from achieving our heart's desires is not anything outside of us, it's the conflict inside.

Everybody does not have to like you. That is not their job. Liking you is not anyone's purpose in life except yours.

You're never healing the level you're on. You're always healing the level you came from. For example, you know things today that you didn't know in your first marriage.

When do you feel most loved? Are you willing to be loved today? Self-love is the magnet that attracts deep and profound expressions of love from others

In the process of planning and having a wedding, I forgot there would actually be a marriage, a union of minds, bodies, souls, and issues that would come together as soon as the ceremony was over.

You can't just cry about the pain. You can't just pray about the pain. You must eliminate the pain.

Regardless of how hard, challenging, frightening, or difficult an experience may seem, everything is just as it needs to be in order for us to heal, grow, and learn.

Use your time, energy and talents to do the best you can right now. Spend no time wishing it were better

I have a daily message, 'Stimumail,' which I use to stimulate the mind and heart. I have the opportunity to touch over 60,000 people I have never met. I also use Twitter and Facebook.

Feminine power is silent, dark, mysterious, healing, nurturing. A woman can walk into a room and control it. She doesn't even have to open her mouth if she knows where her power is.

With all things in life, we do not get what we ask for, we get what we expect.

Beloveds, you are fine, just the way you are! Perfect in your imperfection! You are divine! Growing brighter and more brilliant each day, you can accept the truth of who you are.

All of us have ways in which we mask and cover our pain.